I just want to dork about my characters until next week, but I should really draw something D:
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There are already a ton of HOW TO BEFRIEND ARTISTS posts, but…
I have been thinking a lot lately on how there are a bunch of artists that I really respect and look up to who I have (somehow) managed to befriend… and, you know, how I also exist on that other side of the fence where there are artists I have looked at thinking “gosh they are swell”, casually approached, and just not been able to hit it off. So.. some things:
- Be polite, and be yourself. If you are not a polite person, maybe you should work on that. There, I said it. I know some people who think being rude is cool, and I guess to each their own, but please consider yourself very lucky if anyone is wooed by laying it on thick with the blunt commentary.
- There is no fail-safe gesture or statement to make that will guarantee friendship, because friendships happen naturally. This means you really can’t force it. You can’t force someone to like you. There are no tricks to this. If you click? You’ll click! If you don’t click…
- It’s okay to just be a fan of someone. Maybe it seems like you have lots of similar interests, or an overlapping creative approach, or they make things you like so much that you wish you could ask about it all day, and they just seem like such a cool person and you wish you could get to know them better - but this doesn’t always mean someone wants to be friends. If you find your occasional comment or message isn’t gaining anything more than polite cordiality… be a fan! You were one before, right? Continue to enjoy their stuff, and share their art with others to try and get them new fans, and retain the idea that they are a cool person… you just won’t be getting to know them any better.
- This is because friendships are based on compatibility. Sometimes similar interests contribute to compatibility, but it’s really more about communication. I’ve seen lots of posts that give how-to’s on approaching an artist to be friends, and while OF COURSE they are true in some situations… artists are individuals! And it’s a good thing that they are, because otherwise all our collective art would be pretty boring, right?
- Perhaps most importantly, know that it isn’t your fault or the artist’s fault if a friendship isn’t happening. There is nothing more unappealing than blaming the artist for being “elitist” - they have every right to be cautious in who they let into their life! Even the fact that you wanted to be their friend based on - let’s face it - some pretty superficial stuff is a little suspect, no? It’s okay, we all get a little starry-eyed, sometimes, but know that this stuff probably happens to them a lot, and they are saving their friendships for people who spark them, as well. That said, it’s just not kind to blame yourself, either. It’s not your fault if you are not compatible with someone else, and if you took the steps to exercise good manners and were sincere in your approach, then the last thing you should do is kick yourself.
- Stay positive! If you get too caught up in feeling bad about the fact so-and-so isn’t your pal, you might miss the very obvious fact that there is another perfectly good person out there who might be trying to politely approach you.
I’d also just like to add that if there is something you want to say or ask an artist to try and start a friendship, make sure it is something that you would actually be willing to say or ask them in person if you were given the opportunity.
If you think it sounds weird or dumb to say in person then doing it via the internet doesn’t make it any less so. Just think about how many people you have literally asked ‘will you be my friend?’ since primary school; I’m willing to bet it hasn’t been a whole lot.
And just remember that not everyone online is even looking for friends anyway. Some artists really are just here to showcase their art, and that’s it. Internet friendships can be great (and are just as important and valid as ‘real life’ frienships) but not everyone is comfortable with the idea of them.
mmischieffmanagedd submitted: I LOVE the coloring on your latest portrait of Eloise!! it's so beautiful!!
Ugu, you are too kind to me <3 I kinda feel bad ‘cause I actually really dislike it, hahaha. Though, I think it’s always the way that the stuff people seem to really dig is the stuff the artists is kinda meh on (I wonder how Da Vinci felt about Mona Lisa??).
But now I also get excuses to post this guy: